Beyond Codependency – Healing the Trauma of Loving Someone with Addiction

This course reframes the emotional pain of loving someone in addiction—not as codependency, but as complex trauma. Designed for spouses, parents and family members, it offers clarity, validation, and a path to healing through trauma-informed lessons.

Course curriculum

1. A Story You Haven’t Heard About Yourself
1. Lesson 1.1 – What the World Told You vs. What You Actually Felt
2. 📖 WORKSHEET: Rewriting the Narrative
3. Lesson 1.2 – Codependency or Trauma Response?
4. 📖 WORKSHEET: What If It’s Not Codependency?
5. Lesson 1.3 – The Cost of Mislabeling Yourself
6. 📖 WORKSHEET: Unlearning the Myth of Codependency
1. Lesson 2.1 – Survival Mode Isn’t a Metaphor
2. 📖 WORKSHEET: What Survival Mode Feels Like
3. Lesson 2.2 – Your Body Became the Alarm System
4. 📖 Worksheet: Mapping My Alarm System
5. Lesson 2.3 – When Calm Feels Unsafe
6. 📖 Worksheet: What Peace Feels Like to Me
7. Lesson 2.4 – Grounding: Coming Back Into Your Body
8. 📖 Worksheet: My Personal Grounding Toolkit
1. Surviving the Heat No One Talks About
1. Lesson 3.1 – What is Emotional Hijacking?
2. 📖 WORKSHEET: Recognizing My Emotional Hijacks
3. Lesson 3.2 – The 4 Emotional Hijacks: Hope, Fear, Guilt, and Sympathy
4. 📖 WORKSHEET: My Emotional Hijack Profile
5. Lesson 3.3 – The False Hope Loop
6. 📖 WORKSHEET: Mapping My False Hope Loop
7. Lesson 3.4 – Learning to Recognize the Pattern
8. 📖 WORKSHEET: Recognizing My Red Flags and Building My Pause
9. Lesson 3.5 – Reclaiming Your Emotional Center
10. 📖 WORKSHEET: My Emotional Center Recovery Plan
1. Lesson 4.1 – Living in a State of Waiting
2. 📖 WORKSHEET: What I’m Still Waiting For
3. Lesson 4.2 – False Hope and Emotional Whiplash
4. 📖 WORKSHEET: Hope, Crash, and What I’m Learning About Trust
5. Lesson 4.3 – Hypervigilance as a Lifestyle
6. 📖 WORKSHEET: How I Stay on High Alert
7. Lesson 4.4 – Permission to Breathe Again
8. 📖 WORKSHEET: Permission to Exhale
1. “Living the Role, Losing Myself”
1. Lesson 5.1 – The Spouse as Emotional Thermostat
2. 📖 WORKSHEET: What I Track What I Hide
3. Lesson 5.2 – Chaos Management: When You Run the Whole Show
4. 📖 WORKSHEET: Who Would Notice If I Stopped?
5. Lesson 5.3 – The Garage is Still on Fire
6. 📖 WORKSHEET: Covered in Soot – The Memory I Carry
7. Lesson 5.4 – Intimacy, Loneliness, and Emotional Starvation
8. 📖 WORKSHEET: The Needs I Stopped Asking For
9. Lesson 5.5 – Reclaiming Yourself from the Role
10. 📖 WORKSHEET: Who I Was, Who I Became, Who I’m Becoming
1. When Love Lives in the Body
1. Lesson 6.1 – The Parent Nervous System: Wired for Attachment
2. 📖 WORKSHEET: What My Body Knows as a Parent
3. Lesson 6.2 – When They Overdose, You’re the One Who Remembers
4. 📖 WORKSHEET: The Day I Still Remember
5. Lesson 6.3 – The Fantasy Child and the Grief of What Could Have Been
6. 📖 WORKSHEET: The Fantasy and the Grief
7. Lesson 6.4 – Shame, Blame, and the Myth of the Bad Parent
8. 📖 WORKSHEET: The Shame I’ve Carried, the Truth I Know
9. Lesson 6.5 – Reclaiming Your Role as Parent, Not Prisoner
10. 📖 WORKSHEET: I Am Still Their Parent, But I’m Not Their Prisoner
1. The House that Addiction Rewired
1. Lesson 7.1 – When Love Becomes Sabotage: The Role of the Ally-Antagonist
2. 📖 WORKSHEET: I’m Trying to Lead, But They Keep Undermining It
3. Lesson 7.2 – Triangles, Secrets, and Emotional Chaos
4. 📖 WORKSHEET: The Triangles I’m Trapped In
5. Lesson 7.3 – Enablers, Enforcers, and the Family Divide
6. 📖 WORKSHEET: The Role I’ve Played, the Role I Want to Leave Behind
7. Lesson 7.4 – What to Do When the Family Won’t Get on Board
8. 📖 WORKSHEET: They’re Not Doing the Work—But I Still Can
9. Lesson 7.5 – Leading with Integrity: Holding the Line Without Rage
10. 📖 WORKSHEET: Leading Without Permission
1. Lesson 8.1 – Living in Emotional Landmines: Childhood in an Addicted Home
2. 📖 WORKSHEET: What It Was Like to Grow Up in That House
3. Lesson 8.2 – The Hidden Injuries: What Grows in Emotional Chaos
4. 📖 WORKSHEET: The Traits That Protected Me
5. Lesson 8.3 – The False Self: Who You Had to Become to Survive
6. 📖 WORKSHEET: The Self I Had to Become
7. Lesson 8.4 – Breaking the Pattern: Adult Children of Alcoholics and the Healing Path
8. 📖 WORKSHEET: What I’m Ready to Unlearn
9. Lesson 8.5 – You Were a Child. It Wasn’t Your Job
1. Lesson 9.1 – Styles of Therapy: What Helps and Why
2. 📖 WORKSHEET: What I Want From Healing
3. Lesson 9.2 – Support Groups: What They’re For and How They Work
4. 📖 WORKSHEET: What I Need From Support
5. Lesson 9.3 – Self-Led Healing Practices That Actually Help
6. 📖 WORKSHEET: My Healing Rituals
7. Lesson 9.4 – Creating a Personal Healing Plan
8. 📖 WORKSHEET: My Personal Healing Plan
9. Lesson 9.5 – Healing Isn’t Linear: What to Expect Going Forward
10. 📖 WORKSHEET: When Healing Feels Like Setback
11. Closing Lesson – You Are Already Healing
12. 📖 WORKSHEET: Final Reflection...What I’m Taking With Me

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Beyond Codependency – Healing the Trauma of Loving Someone with Addiction

Course curriculum

A NEW LENS - IT'S NOT CODEPENDENCY, IT'S TRAUMA

📖 Chapter 1: Rewriting the Narrative

📖 Chapter 2: The Body Remembers the Crisis

LIVING IN THE FIRE

📖 Chapter 3: Emotional Hijacking and the False Hope Loop

📖 Chapter 4: The Trauma of Uncertainty

ROLES IN THE HOUSE OF FIRE

📖 Chapter 5: The Invisible Wounds of Spouses

THE PARENT WOUND

📖 Chapter 6: The Trauma of Being a Parent

HOW ADDICTION DIVIDES AND DISTORTS

📖 Chapter 7: When the Family Gets Sick Too

📖 Chapter 8: When the Child Becomes the Adult – The Lasting Impact of Growing Up in Chaos

📖 Chapter 9: What Healing Looks Like — Practices, Support, and Integration

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